I met Tolits, a trans man, through UP Babaylan, a college organization that is home to LGBT youth in the university. He shows himself with solid reassuredness, and that is how he owns his identity. Ian, who identifies as gender non-binary, shared with me that it can get tiring fast to try to fit in a society that might never accept you so what matters is how you see yourself and expressing that. Amber, identifies as a trans woman and she chooses to be visible in fighting for transgender rights, LGBT rights, and human rights alike. For her, they are not at all different.
There is no one way to be a trans man, in the same way there is no way to be a man." Nic said. Masculinity, now more than ever, is constantly being challenged and as a result, more versions of masculinity are becoming more visible to us. Nic and I have been friends since high school in 2010, but only recently reconnected in 2016 when he came out to me as a transgender man; that was when this work began. This 2019, he has been on testosterone for three years, and I was there to witness his first shot of "T."
Being a witness to some of his first transitioning milestones has allowed me the space and time to think about someone else, whose life and world are so different from my experience as a cis-gender woman. We are different but it shows us there are multiple ways of expressing who we are as people. I hope for this work to continue to open up more conversations about transgender visibility and how we are all connected through our desire to be seen for who we truly are.